Author: ECKANKAR

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I have many physical problems this lifetime and have had to overcome many obstacles. I’ve come to the conclusion that love is not for me this time around. How can I begin to have love in my life? Is it too late for me?

Your life certainly is an extraordinary one, and its uniqueness might let you think that love is only for others and not for you. You may find this hard to believe, but people can live together for years in a relationship and still not know love.

It would be wrong for me or anyone else to try to change your mind about anything that is between God and you, so I won’t. This world has its torture camps (as in World-War-II Germany and elsewhere) and places for breaking the human spirit. Yet for some reason, a few among many who faced the same prospect of fear and death on a daily basis had a fierce desire to live. Why? Who can say? Perhaps the survivors were those with the strongest spiritual heartbeats.

Where is love? Again, who can say? We know it’s all around us like an ocean, but where’s the little stream to nourish the garden of our heart?

We don’t mind if all the world has love, but we’d like a little too. Sure, we know about Helen Keller, who became blind, deaf, and mute at the age of nineteen months. With the help of Anne Sullivan, who was her friend and teacher, Helen became a renowned writer and lecturer. She raised funds for training the blind and other projects.

What I’m saying to you here is that people with exceptional problems like yourself must work many times harder than the average person for love or for anything else. But your success can also be much more than that of others.

Love begins in a small place in your heart. Love your music, which can reach out to bring love to others, and so the love in you can grow larger.

There are other people with handicaps who are looking for love as much as you. Some have found it. How? Can you connect with an organization of handicapped individuals to see how its members cope with their search for love?

Love is something we all need as much as air and light.

—Sri Harold Klemp

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What is the difference between the love one has for one’s mate and the love Soul has for God?

Is one sort of love better than the other?

The highest love is a pure love for God.

A pure love for one’s mate is the same as a pure love for God. There is no difference. But, frankly, pure love is a rarity—whether for God or for mate.

“Falling in love” usually means falling into karma. Karma—good, bad, or neutral—sets the tone for a relationship. For example, some couples love to fight.

The attraction between people of a high state of consciousness is a mutual desire to serve God and life. Such a couple join forces to help each other reach even higher states of being.

A high, pure love is sweet indeed.

—Sri Harold Klemp

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Since Soul is neither male nor female and may incarnate in a male body one lifetime and in a female body the next, I thought the process of gender reassignment, also called sex change, would not affect one’s spiritual life in any deleterious way.

My wife and I were legally married in an ECK ceremony some years ago, and she was aware of my transgender status. From the spiritual standpoint, are we man and wife, or not?

Your perception that a sex change in no way affects spiritual unfoldment is correct. Yes, you and your wife are married.

To me, it doesn’t make any difference who a person loves. What should matter the most is how you love. True love does not hurt the loved; it’s that simple.

—Sri Harold Klemp

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I have been having recurring dreams which involve me, my boyfriend, and another woman. In all the dreams, my boyfriend treats me like extra baggage and ignores me while paying attention to her.

We have been having difficulties in our relationship, and for some reason, I don’t trust him. How can I tell whether my dreams are intuitive or simply represent my insecurities?

A relationship without trust won’t last. What is the source of this mistrust? Does he look at other women when you are out together in public?

Dreams can prepare you for a relationship that may be coming to an end. They will tell you something is wrong. If your partner is showing less affection toward you, you must decide whether to try to patch up the relationship or let it go.

Think of your dreams as advisers. They may point out problems and offer solutions, but consider all the facts before deciding on any important issue. Especially watch people’s daily behavior toward you. Your dreams may suggest what behavior to look out for, but don’t break up a relationship without some physical evidence to back up your suspicions.

No matter what happens with this relationship, try to be a greater channel for divine love. Love will overcome suspicion, which can destroy any relationship.

—Sri Harold Klemp

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How does one know if a relationship is based on love and is worth developing?

No one has the final word on love, but consider the following points in deciding if you really love someone:

1. Do they bring joy to your heart when you think of them?
2. Do you want to make them happy?
3. Will you love them for what they are and not try to change them? Will you let them be as they are and not what you want them to be?
4. Young people tend to fall in love with their ideal of love. This means that one has the ideal of a Prince Charming who is really a toad. Not all Prince Charmings are toads, and not all toads are Prince Charmings.
5. Don’t forget your self-worth. How do they treat you—like a treasure or someone to be used?

Love is the expression of ECK, Divine Spirit, on earth, and these points should give you a fairly good opportunity to see what kind of relationship you are in.

—Sri Harold Klemp